Daily Check-In
Mar. 10th, 2026 06:05 pmThis is your check-in post for today. The poll will be open from midnight Universal or Zulu Time (8pm Eastern Time) on Tuesday, March 10, to midnight on Wednesday, March 11. (8pm Eastern Time).
Open to: Access List, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 25
How are you doing?
I am OK.
13 (54.2%)
I am not OK, but don't need help right now.
11 (45.8%)
I could use some help.
0 (0.0%)
How many other humans live with you?
I am living single.
8 (32.0%)
One other person.
11 (44.0%)
More than one other person.
6 (24.0%)
Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.
Write every day! - March 2026 - Day 10
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Mar. 10th, 2026 04:06 pmViews & News: Pearly whites edition
Mar. 10th, 2026 05:43 pm2. Only one client today as Air force guy had chemo today. And they took my Alzheimer's lady off for scheduling reasons and this is my last week with Air Force guy before he moves out of my radius so next week, I will be down to 10 hours (instead of 26-30). For a few days it will be nice to catch up on things. Then I will start wanting more.
3. Saturday morning Minor and I are going to volunteer at the Music Boosters Flea Market. Few things I'd rather do less on a Saturday morning.
4. I am going to get the Netflix sometime this weekend (though I do not like subscriptions) because BTS is having their comeback concert next Saturday (21) on it at 7 am my time.
5. Minisculus turns 11 on the 26th so I am getting his birthday gifts and cake prep stuff together.
6. I did update my soap opera for SUGA's birthday and it turns out that putting off stuff and getting that done did lift my spirits and make me feel good so that was the right choice. Sometimes I have trouble telling what is actually going to be the right sacrifice to make.
My new favorite Youtube channel is Sister Minnie, the Islamic cat.
in which i take a deliberate moment to appreciate art
Mar. 10th, 2026 09:25 pmI am making a deliberate effort to leave my phone as far away from my attention as I can, whenever I am able. I’m not looking at the news, I’m not scrolling the feeds, I’m not posting. I’m leaving it in my pocket, my car, in the kitchen, just … not in my face.
This fits into my efforts to slow down and be more present. It’s creating space I desperately need to decompress, get bored, let my mind wander and come back with a fun and creative idea.
Today, I was out for a minute and saw this little art installation on a telephone pole. It was weathered quite a bit; it’s been here for awhile. And it was beautiful to me. It was a few moments better spent than they would have been looking at anything on my phone, or anything I could have been listening to. It wasn’t dysregulating, it didn’t increase my internal DEFCON level.
I chose to experience and appreciate this thing that someone made when they were very much not thinking about me, because it was exactly where I needed it to be, exactly when I needed it.
I took some pictures (using only the camera and nothing else on the phone) so I could remember the moment, and share the art. They’re pretty big, so I’m gonna put them behind a jump.






Art is so important, y’all. Make time to experience it. Allow it to inspire, comfort, and challenge you.
I love public art, and I love the artists who create and install it. Please support your local arts community.
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It's a 15 minute presentation, dammit, in a fortnight's time
Mar. 10th, 2026 08:25 pmSo really, there isn't a lot of point in going diving into the rabbit-hole that's just opened up.
I.e. I am revising my old piece of work for the Fellows' presentations session, and I thought, why not just see if name of author of obscure feminist work cited appears in British Newspaper Archive, which at time I was writing was less in habit of habitually consulting on odd points (did not, I think, have a subscription, for one thing). As otherwise I had no info on her at all.
And, blow me down, she may only have written one book but seems to have committed the odd journalistic opinion piece, and furthermore, is listed as being one of the founders of an organisation set up by Old Suffragettes (or possibly -ists).
Which I find someone has Has Writ A Book About, as one of those women's orgs that have been condescended to by posterity as about the little dears getting together to chat, bless the ladies, and turns out to have been rather more activist in its sphere than one reckoned.
Library to which I have access has copy, but will not let me have online access to ebook for some reason, sigh.
And really, I do have other things to do (thesis to read, book to review, have been solicited to do a podcast, must try and put together a powerpoint for my talk) than dash off down to LSE to look at the archives of the org, right?
Because given the limitations on what it's for, at the moment - however the work in question will develop - it will be a sentence at best, because of time constraints.
Frustration.
That Was Not Naturalistic.
Mar. 10th, 2026 07:25 pmAs a consequence of this, I have spent a concerning amount of the day thinking about sex with Robert Grove.
My first instinct was that Robert would be a selfish lover, because, well, he's a selfish person. However! What Robert really wants to do, at all times, is put on a performance and get a warm reception from the audience. In bed, you are his audience, and his main interest is getting a good response from you.
This means he will pay attention to your pleasure in bed! If you're not visibly and audibly enjoying yourself, he's not satisfied. Unfortunately, he is ungracious about this; if your response is not to his satisfaction, he will call you a philistine and sulk.
While Robert is likely of the opinion that thrusting harder equals better sex, you can probably get him to do just about anything if you frame it as a role you'd like him to perform. He is willing to perform oral sex, but will grumble that he prefers speaking roles.
My extremely inexpert assessment of the other members of the Cornley Drama Society in bed:
Annie: Great! Bold and enthusiastic, invested in both of you having a good time, introduces you to some fun new fetishes.
Sandra: Sandra and Robert are both very self-absorbed, but, unlike Robert - who seeks to bolster his ego through your reactions - I think Sandra's mainly interested in her own pleasure in bed. She knows what she's doing, though, which is more than can be said for much of the society. You'll probably still have a good time.
Max: Clueless but enthusiastic. Is, like Robert, very invested in you responding well. Probably not bad overall.
Dennis: Clueless and terrified. He's either dreadful or, much to the surprise of both of you, turns out to be the best sex you've ever had.
Vanessa: Has drawn up an agenda for your sexual encounter, assigning time slots for each specific act, and will become very stressed out if you deviate from it. She'd probably be good if she relaxed a little! She will never relax.
Trevor: I have no idea what Trevor is like in bed, and I find it slightly alarming to contemplate. If it's anything like the way he drives, you are in physical danger.
Jonathan: N/A. You will never sleep with Jonathan. You can try! But somehow the two of you will always be prevented from actually performing the deed. He's probably the best lover in the drama society, but you'll never know.
Chris: Terrible. The worst of the lot. He will try! He will fail. Do not sleep with Chris Bean.
I mean, you can if you want to. It's not that bad; he's just deeply repressed in a way that is unlikely to mesh well with 'hey, it's time for a lot of intimacy and physical contact.' The experience is likely to be disappointing, rather than traumatic. But it's going to be so disappointing.
Poetry of Chiyo-ni: The Life and Art of Japan's Most Celebrated Woman Haiku Master
Mar. 10th, 2026 11:19 amAn important book as it was the first—and perhaps still the only—of its kind in English, a translation dedicated to a female haiku master. The introductory material provides valuable context for the time in which Chiyo-ni lived, the forms she worked in, and the influence of Zen Buddhism on her art, but it can be repetitive, covering the same ground multiple times, and I wish the biography had stuck closer to things that could be verified and wasn't so gossipy. We know very little about Chiyo-ni's personal life, not even if she was married, and Donegan apparently felt the need to pad her bio with unnecessary—and often melodramatic—speculation.
Chiyo-ni's haiku has, you'll never guess it, a more feminine approach than those of the old male masters, and for this her poetry has been criticized—by men—as not being "as good." But here's yet another example of men needing to shut up and let women work. Chiyo-ni's poetry is different because it's hers, just as Issa's work is different from Bashō's. Chiyo-ni's haiku is often more personal than that of the old male masters, with more people, particularly women, present in them:
woman's desire
deeply rooted–
the wild violets
Bashō would never. Issa might, but he'd add fleas. (Not in a gross way, he just loved bugs!)
Chiyo-ni's haiku is perhaps also more deeply rooted in Zen Buddhism—she was a nun after all—and as a result I found many of them inaccessible to me, as they're mainly interested in expressing Zen principles and feel kind of canned as she repeatedly returns to the same images and phrases. "Cool clear water" is nice once or twice. It is not as nice the fortieth time. It didn't help that the editors were constantly in the footnotes explaining how this was a poem about impermanence or non-duality and praising the deepness of her understanding of such things. It started to make the poetry feel performative, like Chiyo-ni was trying to win some kind of contest, and it didn't offer much to this non-enlightened reader. Like they didn't even bother to explain what non-duality was. But I still found several pieces that were meaningful even without Being The Best At Zen, like this, one of her best-known poems:
a hundred gourds
from the heart
of one vine
And her most famous haiku:
morning glory–
the well-bucket entangled
I ask for water
And this, one of her best known Buddhist haiku, which is supposedly expressing the peace of detachment, but I just love how dismissively breezy it is:
anyway
leave it to the wind—
dry pampas grass
I, too, wish I could leave it all to the wind.
Recommended because it's important to keep Chiyo-ni's name out there, mentioned in the same breath as Bashō, Buson, and Issa, but there's also good poetry in here. Like this haiku, which I absolutely love because the structure suggests that the horsetails were there first and the ruins came later.
つくつくしここらに寺の跡もあり
tsukutsukushi / kokora ni tera no / ato mo ari
among a field
of horsetail weeds–
temple ruins
Or this classic:
falling down laughing
at others falling down—
snow viewing
The poems are presented one per page, with the transliteration first, which is a weird choice, then the English translation, and the Japanese (with furigana) in three staggered vertical columns, read right to left. (Personally, I think either the translation or the actual Japanese should have been offered first, as the transliteration is the least attractive on the page and not particularly meaningful if you don't know Japanese. If you do know Japanese, it's still of limited use.) Footnotes identify the kigo (seasonal word), and many include translation notes, further background, or another poem on a similar subject.
Now for the bad news: I read this in ebook because that was the only way my library had it, and it was not a pleasurable experience. It's listed as an epub in the catalogue, but it sure did act like a PDF. It was an image of the book rather than a text that would flow to fit your screen, and you could only zoom in, not increase the font wholesale. You couldn't highlight text (or search) with any accuracy, and you couldn't highlight at all if you were zoomed in. None of the many end notes were linked. I was pretty mad at this book, not going to lie, and it made my time with Chiyo-ni's poetry kind of frustrating. Definitely get it in print if you're able.
Hope this Email Finds You (literally, we just hope it finds you)
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Book rec
Mar. 10th, 2026 01:36 pmHell's Library Trilogy
I borrowed this series from my local library and liked it so much that I bought the series. I think it's time for a reread. :)
"OMG YOU'RE A FASCIST" and other adventures in modding SquidgeWorld
Mar. 10th, 2026 04:11 pmAn assertion by an individual on Tumblr is going around calling me/Squidge/SquidgeWorld a fascist organization that deletes works with no cares or such. That we're power hungry, etc..
Is there truth in this? If you know BOTH sides and not just the individual that's accusing us of this, you'll understand. I've gotten half a dozen trouble-tickets asking me to clarify, and so that's the impetus of posting this. Please make YOUR OWN INFORMED DECISION.
I've taken down exactly 2 works (works, not comments. Comments get deleted if they are commission spammers.). And the reasons are:1) Person imported a work into SqWA from AO3. They didn't bother to clean it up at all - they left in all of the icons, kudos from AO3, etc. The formatting was a complete mess, and I got a couple of trouble tickets on it. I hid the work and was in the process of contacting the author when they emailed me, cussing me out, etc. At that point, I deleted the work because they decided "YOU'RE A FASCIST" and other lovely comments about my personage.2) Person created one fandom work, and then the next day left 4 comments in 38 seconds (the Tumblr post I made for SqWA spam) saying they really connected with the 4 works they read in under a second. They attempted to commission spam, and as a result, we deleted their account. Including the one story that they posted.
